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Is "The One" a Myth? God's Will VS Your Choices in Love
Could it be that searching for "the one" is just a myth, or is there truly someone predestined for each of us? We explore this fascinating question and more on the journey of navigating God's will in love & relationships. Through my personal experiences and reflections, we'll discuss the importance of making Godly decisions, aligning with God's will, and focusing on becoming the right person rather than obsessively searching for the right match. By examining biblical wisdom, we'll uncover ways to trust God's timing and discern His guidance in our romantic lives. Plus, I share practical tips like praying for discernment and seeking accountability from trusted Christian friends to stay active and intentional in your choices.
I reflect on the peace that comes with making thoughtful choices and finding love rooted in genuine faith. As we prepare to differentiate between self-love and self-obsession in future discussions, I invite you to connect with our podcast community—share your thoughts, subscribe, and submit questions for upcoming episodes. Together, we'll journey toward nurturing genuine love and confidence, with the hope of inspiring each other along the way. Join me for this enriching conversation and leave with a heart full of encouragement and anticipation for what lies ahead.
Hi, I'm Renee Rochel, the founder and president of One True Match. I'm here to help you find and cultivate the love of your life. For over a decade, I've dedicated my life to the importance, purpose and dynamic of human relationships. My team and I are disciplined by faith, love and integrity to help our clients find the quality relationship they've always dreamt of. Each week, I will be sharing the tools and tips I've learned that have rooted my success as a matchmaker with other leaders around the world. Hello, loves, welcome back.
Renee Richel:Today we're going to talk about is the one a myth God's will versus your choices in love. This is something I feel like I'm talking about with people on a daily basis. Maybe you're asking yourself is there really just one person out there for me? Or maybe, like me, you've thought, what if I miss them? Today, we're going to explore what God says about relationships, how to trust Him in our choices and what it means to make wise decisions in love. Let's open with prayer. Heavenly Father, thank you for being the ultimate guide in our lives and relationships. As we explore today's topic, we ask that you give us clarity, discernment and peace in understanding your will for our lives. Help us to trust your timing and your plan. Help us to trust your timing and your plan. Amen. All right, let's unpack the idea of the one.
Renee Richel:Let's start by looking at where the idea, the one, comes from. We see in the movies, books and even in Christian circles. Sometimes this idea of God has created one single person out there who is our perfect match, our soulmate. And while it's beautiful to think of God as our matchmaker, the Bible doesn't us a formula that says there's one singular person predestined to be our spouse. Instead, it talks a lot about godly relationships, wise choices and aligning ourselves with God's will. One of my favorite verses on this topic is Proverbs 3, 5 through 6, which says Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways, submit to him and he will make your path straight. The straight path can include marriage, but it's more about your journey with God than a guaranteed destination with a specific person. This brings us to the next question how do we know if someone is God's will for us, and if the one isn't necessarily a biblical guarantee, then what role do our choices play in love? Here's the thing God has given us free will, along with the wisdom to make intentional choices. When you align our choices with his will, we're more likely to walk in relationships that honor him and bring us joy. Think of it this way If God's will is a destination, then our choices are the steps we take on the journey. He doesn't control every detail, but instead provides us with guidance to make wise decisions. So instead of searching for the one, let's focus on being the right one first, the person God has called us to be, who can love another person in a godly, selfless way.
Renee Richel:I was once in a relationship that felt almost right. The guy checked all the boxes. He was a strong Christian, kind soul, attractive, successful businessman, but something just felt off. I couldn't shake it. I kept praying God, if this isn't your will, please show me. And over time it became clear that, while he was a wonderful person, he just wasn't the right person for me. Looking back, I see how God gently guides us away from the path that wasn't aligned with his best. For me, it wasn't about the one. It was about making choices that honor God and honored myself.
Renee Richel:The takeaway is, instead of praying solely for a specific person, let's ask God for wisdom, for discernment and for peace as we make choices in our relationships. When we do this, he will direct our steps maybe towards a relationship or maybe towards deeper growth within ourselves. So how can we apply? This is the question. We apply. This is the question when are some practical ways to let God lead your heart while staying active in the choices you make?
Renee Richel:Number one pray for discernment, not just for confirmation. Often we want God to confirm our decisions rather than give us the wisdom Instead of praying God. Please let this person in my life try praying God. Please give me discernment. Help me see this person as you see them. Number two seek accountability from trusted Christian friends. We all know that in love it's easy to lose perspective. Having friends who can lovingly give you feedback, especially those who are walking in faith, is invaluable. They can offer insight you might not see in the midst of a strong emotional connection. Number three be open to growth and change. Sometimes we meet someone amazing, but God is saying not yet. Amazing, but God is saying not yet. It can definitely be the time of personal growth, healing and even a deeper relationship with him he wants us to focus on first.
Renee Richel:Trusting God's timing means being open to working on ourselves and waiting for his green light Number four in waiting for his green light Number four. Reflect on compatibility in faith and values. This is so huge, it's easy to get swept up in chemistry, but faith and values are the foundation of a strong relationship. If you both share a love for Jesus and a desire to serve him, you're building on something that is solid. So ask yourself do your relationships reflect the fruit of the Spirit Love, joy, peace, patience, kindness and so on? Let's be real for a second Society and our friends, even our families, often put pressure on us to find the one, and as much as people mean well, sometimes we start to feel like we're falling behind if we haven't found the perfect partner.
Renee Richel:God's timing doesn't work like that. He isn't rushing or delaying anything in our life. He knows exactly what he's doing and he is more interested in your heart's growth than in matching you up on a timeline. So take that pressure off of yourself. He's got this. The best advice I can give here is to live fully in the present, trusting that when God's timing aligns, you can't miss it. I promise you. And if someone asks so, have you found the one? You can respond with a smile and say I'm finding joy in God's plan, one step at a time. In all this, remember that no relationship can fill the place of your heart that belongs to God. We can feel deep love for others, but we are made to be completed by our Creator first. When we are filled with God's love, we can approach relationships with fullness, rather than expecting someone else to make us whole.
Renee Richel:If you're feeling anxious about your future in love, remember Psalms 37 that we discussed last week. That says delight yourself in the Lord and he will give you the desires of your heart. This doesn't mean he'll deliver a partner in a perfect package the moment you ask. However, it does mean that when we seek him, he aligns our desires with his will. He knows what you need and he has a beautiful plan for your life. As we wrap this up, I want to encourage you to let go of the idea that you might miss out on the one or that your choices might lead you away from God's best. When you're grounded in God, trusting his wisdom, you're exactly where you need to be.
Renee Richel:Let's close in prayer. Lord, thank you for guiding us in love and life. Remind us that your will is greater than our plans and your love is deeper than earthly love. We ask for discernment in our choices, for patience in our waiting and for peace in knowing you hold the future. May we walk in confidence, trusting that you are the ultimate one who completes us In Jesus' name, amen.
Renee Richel:I hope this episode has given you peace about love, choices and God's direction for your life. Tune in next week to learn about self-love versus self-obsession, how to build godly confidence, and remember to share this with your friends. Subscribe, like our channel so that we can continue to inspire you and others to finding and holding on to true love. I hope you have a blessed week and can't wait for our next chat. Lots of love. It's been another great talk on this episode of 1 True Talks by Renee Richel. I look forward to our next chat. Please write in your questions and comments so I can be sure to talk about whatever it is you want to discuss in our next upcoming episode. Lots of love, god bless XOXO.