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Self-Love VS Self Obsession: Cultivating Godly Confidence
Unlock the secrets to building unshakeable self-love and Godly confidence. What if you could see yourself through God's eyes, embracing the divine assurance that you're fearfully and wonderfully made? Join our heartfelt journey as we explore the delicate balance between genuine self-love and the slippery slope of self-obsession. We tackle approval addiction, sharing practical strategies and biblical teachings like Psalms 139:14 to help you break free from the need for constant validation and anchor your self-worth in God's unwavering truth. Discover how Godly confidence isn't about being the loudest, but rather finding quiet assurance in knowing you are chosen for a divine purpose.
Our conversation doesn't stop there; we also touch on the joys and challenges of singleness. While society may equate being alone with loneliness, we explore how to navigate this season of life with independence and confidence. Next week, we’ll dive into the nuances of living alone, balancing the concepts of isolation versus independence. Your insights and questions are invaluable, so I encourage you to share them as we continue this journey together, finding strength and purpose in community and faith. Whether you're commuting, tackling household chores, or enjoying a rare moment of peace, remember—you're seen, you're known, and you're deeply loved by God.
Hi, I'm Renee Rochelle, the founder and president of One True Match. I'm here to help you find and cultivate the love of your life. For over a decade, I've dedicated my life to the importance, purpose and dynamic of human relationships. My team and I are disciplined by faith, love and integrity to help our clients find the quality relationship they've always dreamt of. Each week, I will be sharing the tools and tips I've learned that have rooted my success as a matchmaker with other leaders around the world. Hello, loves, welcome back. Happy Thursday, if you're listening to this, on an actual Thursday, where every week, I share more tips and tools that are beneficial and helpful for everyone that wants love, that has love and wants to flourish in God's love.
Speaker 1:Today's topic we're going to talk about self-love versus self-obsession how to build godly confidence. I have no idea where you are right now. Maybe you're driving, folding laundry or sneaking a quick moment before the chaos of the day kicks in. Whatever it looks like, know this God sees you, he knows your heart and he's calling you to step fully into the confidence that comes from Him. Today, we're going to dive into two topics how to embrace godly self-love without falling into self-obsession, and how to break free from approval addiction, that constant craving for validation from others. These topics are so close to my heart because they're foundational to truly understanding who God made us to be. This is something we also explore in the Love Starts With you course. It's a deep dive into discovering your God-given identity, strengthens and areas where you've been held back by insecurities or unhealthy patterns. Been held back by insecurities or unhealthy patterns Because, let's be real, how can we give love or receive in a healthy way if we don't start by letting God's love shape how we see ourselves? So today I want to give you a taste of that, something practical and life-giving to help you walk in the fullness of who you are. So grab your coffee, settle in and let's get started.
Speaker 1:In today's culture, self-love often gets a bad rap because it's tied to a me-centered lifestyle. We hear phrases like you do you or put yourself first, and while there's truth to prioritizing health and boundaries, the world's version of self-love often pushes us away from God. However, the Bible teaches us something different. In Matthew 22, 37 through 39, jesus says love the Lord, your God, with all of your heart and with all of your soul and with all of your mind. This is the first and greatest commandment and the second is love your neighbor as yourself. Do you see the balance? Love God, love others and, yes, love yourself, but not in a way that makes you the center of your world. True self-love is about seeing yourself the way God does fearfully and wonderfully made, yet called to live humbly and serve others.
Speaker 1:I've had seasons in my life where I was hyper-focused on myself, whether it was something I looked at, chased personal goals or worried about what others thought of me. That also comes with feelings empty, not fulfilled. Why? Because I was putting myself in the center instead of God. I'm sure you remember moments in your life. This happened when I started realizing my self-love with God's truth. It changed everything. I began to see my worth, not in what I could achieve and how I looked, but in who God says I am, and that's the kind of self-love we focus on in.
Speaker 1:The Love Starts With you. Course. It's all about building your confidence on the foundation of Christ and not the shaky opinions of the world. I encourage you take time this week to ask God, lord, am I living to glorify you or am I putting myself first? Let him search your heart and guide you towards the right balance, breaking free from approval addiction.
Speaker 1:Approval addiction is that deep-rooted desire to be seen, liked and validated by others. While it feels good in the moment, it's a trap that keeps us stuck. Paul reminds us in Galatians 1.10, am I now trying to win the approval of human beings or of God, or am I trying to please people? If I was still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ. When we get caught up in the hamster wheel of constantly seeking approval from other people whether it's through compliments, social media likes or someone telling you you're doing a great job the problem becomes that people's opinions are always changing. What someone approves of today might be criticized tomorrow.
Speaker 1:One of the things we emphasize in the Love Starts With you course is learning how to let go of that need of external valification. When you build your identity on the solid rock of God's truth, you don't have to chase after approval anymore. You're already fully loved and fully known by him. Write down one area of your life where you've been seeking approval. Maybe it's in your job, your relationship or even how you present yourself online. Then ask yourself what would it look like to seek God's approval in this area instead, pray over that and let God shift your perspective. So what does godly confidence really look like? It's not about being the loudest person in the room or never doubting yourself. Godly confidence is a quiet assurance that you are loved, chosen and created for a divine purpose.
Speaker 1:One of my favorite verses is Psalms 139.14. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Your works are wonderful. I know that full well. When you start living in that truth, everything changes. You stop comparing yourself to others, you stop measuring your worth by your productivity or how you look and you begin to walk in freedom, not because you're perfect, but because you trust the Lord who is.
Speaker 1:That's the kind of transformation we explore in the Love Starts With you, course. It's about letting go of the lies that say you're not good enough and embracing the truth that you are enough because God says so. Here's a simple exercise Each morning, declare one truth about who you are in Christ. Maybe it's I am loved, or I am chosen, or I am enough because God says so. Write it on a sticky note. Set it on your wallpaper on your phone whatever works for you. Set it on your wallpaper on your phone whatever works for you. Start your day with that affirmation and let it shape how you see yourself and others.
Speaker 1:As we wrap up, I want to leave you with this truth Godly self-love starts with seeing yourself the way he does worthy, cherished and called. You don't need the world's approval to be confident. You just need to rest in God's love and let him be your anchor. If today's message resonated with you, I'd love for you to check out. Our Love Starts With you course. It's not just a course. It's an invitation to dive deeper into your God-given identity and step fully into the life he's calling you to live. Thank you so much for being here with me today.
Speaker 1:If this episode encouraged you, share it with someone who needs this message and don't forget to join me next week for another heartfelt conversation. Until then, walk with his love and grace. Next week we are going to talk about single and living alone, isolation versus independence. I'm going to love and leave you and hope you have a blessed rest of your day. It's been another great talk on this episode of One True Talks by Renee Rochelle. I look forward to our next chat. Please write in your questions and comments so I can be sure to talk about whatever it is you want to discuss in our next upcoming episode. Lots of love, god bless XOXO.